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: caitlin_chan; March 29th, 2008

spot on the path:: dorm @ X

light, shadow, or in between:: contemplative

sounds on the path:: Shizuka na Jouzen ("Silent Passion") - Hikaru no GO OST

So Matthew's wife, Amy, was pregnant. (Matthew of the wedding from October.) We were all kinda excited about it, and my aunt especially, since it'd be her first grandkid.

The baby was born either Thursday night or Friday morning (I'm not sure) at approximately 26 weeks but she didn't survive.

I went looking for a sympathy card to send to Matt and Amy, but... ugh. They all seemed so trite and impersonal, I couldn't bring myself to buy one. I'm going to just write them instead.

Tags: death, family

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guitarpulsation

2008-03-29 10:55 pm (UTC)

;_; *huggle*

caitlin_chan

2008-03-29 11:02 pm (UTC)

*hugs back*

tramsosmai

2008-03-29 11:07 pm (UTC)

It's so hard to know what to say in this sort of situation- I'm sure you'll find the right words.

My sympathies.

caitlin_chan

2008-03-29 11:58 pm (UTC)

...Well, I'm not a writer for nothing I guess.

Thanks, though. <3

catholic_chic

2008-03-30 02:09 am (UTC)

I'm so sorry to hear that. *hugs*

caitlin_chan

2008-03-30 02:18 am (UTC)

Thanks. *hugs back*

tonko

2008-03-30 02:29 am (UTC)

:(

That's so awfully sad, what a loss. My condolonces to everyone.

I'm sure something you wrote will be good--like you said, cards can be so... ::gestures vaguely:: not enough, I guess.

caitlin_chan

2008-03-30 02:39 am (UTC)

Thanks.

Well, it'll just be a little note, but better than nothing, yeah?

tonko

2008-03-30 02:47 am (UTC)

Yes! I didn't mean like, not enough as in one wants to write a ten-page letter, or anything, it's just sorta more heartfelt to write a note on your own, when one is equipped, vocabulary-wise, to do so.

caitlin_chan

2008-03-30 02:53 am (UTC)

Oh, yeah, I knew what you meant. <3

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caitlin_chan

2008-03-30 04:09 am (UTC)

I'm not buying a card. They were all trite and ugh.

I know that there isn't anything I can do to make it better, but I want them to know I'm thinking of them all the same.

atom0001

2008-03-30 03:55 pm (UTC)

Most cards are so shallow, it's just not worth it.

It seems like the appropriate way to express your grief. Just the fact that you decided to write a letter should show empathetic you are. Sincerely sorry for their loss, my condolences go out to them.

Plus, your awesome writing skills will get the message across. XD.

caitlin_chan

2008-03-30 04:00 pm (UTC)

Yeah, the shallow was the whole reason I didn't buy one. I was reading them and just... ugh. Talk about trite, y'know?

Thanks.

Heehee.

atom0001

2008-03-30 04:06 pm (UTC)

Yep. When I pick out a card, I usually sit there for a good half-hour to 45 minutes to find the card that says the right thing. There's bound to be at least one card in that knows the feeling. Although, for a sympathy card, the weight is much more evident and I'd rather not waste their time for another card. Don't blame ya.

I kid you not. Especially, since you are writing from a solemn place filled with emotion, it'll be great.

caitlin_chan

2008-03-30 04:13 pm (UTC)

Yeah, I usually take forever to pick cards.

Thanks.

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